“Nobody understands the challenges I face because they think I am idling away at home. This is so unlike a 9-hour job; there is no let-up!” said a close friend who gave up her career to be a homemaker.
This one is for you, dear unsung heroine!
She plans the budget for the month, carefully allotting money for school-related fees, household expenses, payments for investments and savings, and salary for hired help.
At the supermarket, she compares the quality and price of different brands of many products. She would beat any quality inspector or auditor easily. She has mastered the art of spotting better quality within the restraints of a strict budget.
Every day, she deals with the complaints of her maid, with the patience of a saint. She hires hardworking people to work in the land around her house and negotiates payment with them.
She keeps in touch with the vendors who supply her with newspapers, milk etc. She maintains good business relationships with them so that they provide reliable, quality products and service.
Second helpings of a delicious dish? Washed and ironed dresses in cupboards, ready to wear? She does them all. She always ensures that her family is well looked after and happy. Think of the family as a firm and its members as its stakeholders; if so, isn’t this a good example of stakeholder satisfaction?
She finishes her work on time so that other members of the household are able to leave the house on time (on weekdays) or just to relax and have a good time (on weekends).
Fight between children? Mother-in-law ill? Husband angry? Death in the family? She marshals resources, provides leadership, maintains peace, or works as a team player in any crisis and see to it that nobody is affected.
Her job is certainly not a bed of roses—it has no fixed timings; there is no rest, and in most cases, there is no stand-in person. However, she carries on with minimum complaints and a great deal of equanimity.
She may not rush out every morning with a laptop and a smart phone. However, as C. S. Lewis said, the homemaker has the ultimate career. And, we need to learn more from her.
(I have referred to ‘she’,’ her’ and ‘women’ in this post for ease of writing. No offence meant to either gender!)